Fathers and Step-fathers at Weddings
With all due respect to brides, I am glad I am a male and will someday be lucky enough to become a groom when the time is right. That’s not to say that being a bride isn’t one of the most exciting things in the world and every little girl dreams of her big day!
Being a bride includes finding a prince charming, picking out the perfect dress, handling venues to add to the party of a lifetime, eventually settling-down to have kids and starting one’s life.
What most brides do NOT want to deal with, if they are blessed with such a situation, is the task of choosing someone to walk them down the aisle of the church on their wedding day. Some brides have a father and a step-father to consider as their “walking down the aisle” partner. What does one do in this kind of situation?
My friend Allison, who I have known since high school, has a wonderful father. The thing is, is that things didn’t quite work out with Allison’s mother and him and a divorce was on the horizon. Then enter a man named Bill; he is an all-around family man, works full-time, and suddenly becomes Allison’s step-father. When Allison comes of marrying age, who will she decide to walk her down to aisle?
For years, my friend has literally been in turmoil over the fact that she has two wonderful and fit men to see her to her new husband when the time comes. The situation she was cosmically been thrown into made her sad at times and she came to me for advice on numerous occasions.
Jokingly I would say to Allison, “Why don’t you just forget the both of them, and ask me to walk you down the aisle?” There. Problem solved, right? She would cackle at my proposed solution and agree that it would make things a lot easier on everyone.
Honestly though, how would you handle that situation? You clearly don’t want to hurt your father’s feelings and don’t want to leave out another important man in your life that took you in as his own since childhood. Things to think about…
May I suggest doing the following? Sit down with each of your fathers and have a serious, lengthy discussion about wedding plans. If they both mean the world to you, the decision should be easy. Ask if they can both walk you down the aisle at the same time. If anything else, it would make for a good story and nice pictures.
Unfortunately, life is not a fairytale; some fathers aren’t perfect and neither are step-fathers. If you are not close with one or the other, choose the best person for you that you are closest with. This might take away some stress and overall family drama in the long-run.
One final thing to think about is whether or not you have a surviving father to attend your big day. If the answer is no, then my heart truly goes out to you. Some people to consider to walk you down the aisle are as follows: brothers, uncles, cousins, grandfathers, etc. Choose the person who understands you the most and that you love uncontrollably. The decision here is yours and I’m sure you’ll make the right choice. Just remember that if your father is not around on your special day that he will be there in spirit and forever will be in your heart and soul.
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